tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13946990.post9059920466909178685..comments2023-10-25T10:12:17.796-05:00Comments on Through These Brown Eyes: Starting to slow down...Ladynayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13767090012719390044noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13946990.post-89144215616318612222015-01-02T23:15:57.719-05:002015-01-02T23:15:57.719-05:00YES!!!! I hate this societal expectation we have w...YES!!!! I hate this societal expectation we have with a passion!<br /><br />I am soo glad you are finding balance. I am as well, slowly, but surely!<br /><br />#HugsLadynayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13767090012719390044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13946990.post-75044135974617372942014-12-20T15:48:52.625-05:002014-12-20T15:48:52.625-05:00I recently read a post about stopping the hustle (...I recently read a post about stopping the hustle (http://ohmyhandmade.com/2014/omhg/stop-the-hustle/) and slowing down and it resonated with me so much. While I'm not working 5 jobs and raising a child, I have been doing too much. The past week or so, when possible, I've been slowing myself down, resting when I need it, and not feeling bad about it at all. <br /><br />I think it's hard for Black women to do this because we're just expected to hold it down, no matter what. The reality is if we don't take care of ourselves, we won't have anything left to give. I also think it's important to vocalize what we need or want. For example, maybe you can have a sit down with your mom and say, you know, I'm feeling stretched really thin right now, it'd be great if you could do ____. Yes, you shouldn't have to tell her that, but you know, sometimes you just have to tell people how you need and want to be treated. JE and I have had these conversations as well. He sees that I'm able to function without him, but I had to tell him, look, I don't want to have to do so much. I really need for your assistance on x, y, and z. It's not perfect, but we're finally getting a balance. <br /><br />Sorry, didn't mean to blog, but I just felt compelled to say that to you. I hope you have a great break, lady. You deserve it! blkbutterflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02938145312798108811noreply@blogger.com