Yep, I am done after 3 weeks. Completely done. It was fun while it lasted. Maybe he wanted me to be done, if so, it worked. Good job Kuntry, you've won the game! YAY!
In a way, I am sad cuz this marks the end of another possible companion gone out the window....
In a way, I am kinda glad that it didn't take me longer to get to this point. That would have been more time wasted....
In a way, I am scared to death because when "my man" finally enters my life and says and does all those same wonderful things, I will be too blind by the bs I am accustomed to to notice that he actually means it....
I spoke to Babydaddy *don't ask* and he told me that in order for me to break the cycle of meeting the same type of brotha, I have to change the venue I am meeting them. I've met them on the net, I've met them in the store, I've been set up, where else is there for a woman with a toddler who can't put herself out there in the middle of the social scene to find a decent human that's simple and st8 forward? I wasn't even looking when Kuntry came into play! I was lonely and bored, but I wasn't looking!
I called Kuntry and asked him to tell me exactly what he wanted from me, I was told I would get a call back tonight. I asked because I feel really manipulated right now and I don't know why. At the very least I could have a reason. Think he called? He won't...neither will I...
I just pray that I will in the right mindset when the person for me comes around cuz this bs cloud is getting so thick it's about to become a wall, and that's not fair for someone that genuinely wants me to have to knock down a wall to gain access to me when the game players got a chance to get to know the real me off top.....
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Church!!! Find you a good man at church. A good gay man. I'm just playing.
Sorry about Kuntry. He missed out.Atleast you didnt invest too much time in him though. That's kind of a positive.
Lj - LOL your silly, but not 100% wrong! Don't be sorry bout Kuntry not on bit, I am not!
Your right he missed out on a potential great thing, now he has to settle for being no more than an associate. I am learning my lesson.
I've been recently started reading your blog, but this is the first time that I've commented.
I hope I'm not being too blunt or overstepping my bounds but next time, don't give so much so soon.
In the first week you were giving out perks that shouldn't have been given out until at least 6 months into the relationship.
Men like a challenge, and if you make too easy for them then they tend to loose interest real quick.
Next time, slow it down a little. Find out what he wants in a relationship and convey to him what you want before you hand out the treats!
Chelle - Sup hun! Your not overstepping and I hear yah. I tend to give to everyone not just dudes. If I like you I like you and I do things for you. That's just the way I've always been. But I do hear you and my conscience has told me something very similar before.....
Thank you so much for your comment!
At least you found out early in the game. Too bad for him...So far, my best relationships have started in restaurants. I met three guys that I dated while out to dinner with friends on three different occasions. So I guess my answer to your question would be, just meeting by chance... nothing planned, just taking it as it comes along.
Luvin - how interesting! Restaurants....hmmmmm LOL
i'm with chelle. you have gifts that should be bestowed upon the brotha who deserves it. him being nice to you ain't enough incentive as far as i'm concerned. brotha's SUPPOSED to be nice. lol
it's about how they treat you after a few months. you deserved to be treated with respect and appreciation. no way that brotha should have had as much acess to you and your generosity without first proving himself worthy.
i'm telling you this cuz i've been there, believe me. it's not where you go to meet 'em cuz i've seen some dogs right up there in church.
it comes down to how you teach folk to treat you from jump. brothas ain't stupid. they know if they're dealing with someone who will allow them to act any ole kinda way. same for sistas.
you let 'em know you ain't having that shit and you won't be having that shit. LOL
Nikki - You and Chelle are both right. Thanks for the input, it's just hard for me cuz I like doing nice things for folk! :-(
Nay, I promise you the best thing about getting older and encountering these situations is that you learn from them and grow wiser. I've been there too. Which is why I alsmost had to sue ol boy. But atleast its over in three weeks vs the 4yrs I went in circles with him and you've taken notes. Not every man has the same intentions you do, so when ladies are out there, we gotta be on the look out.
As far where to meet them? I dunno. It just kinda happens for me. The only time I've ever approached a guy was when I was on some liquid courage (about 3 LITs). I dont know why I'm so uncomfortable with it. But I'm willing to bet you dont have a problem with being direct. My home girl has been crusing bookstores in Ral. & Chapel Hill lately looking for dudes. She's also been to some speed dating events.
Also there is this spot in Ral called Zydeco, its a jazz/open mic spot that the same home girl has been telling me about. If you want, BEFORE I MOVE (I'm so excited!!), we can make our way over there.
And I would just like to cosign on everything that Niki said!
Especially the bit about the dudes in the church.
Nay - I am still not acknowledging the fact your moving! I finally get one decent blogger buddy that's local and your on your way out! grrrrrrr We may just have to hit that Zydeco spot, sounds interesting...that Reggae spot 2!
Southern - I wasn't looking. I only mentioned that cuz babydaddy said that I am encountering the same type of brotha's from meeting them at the same type places...
Okay I know the comments on this post is suppose to be all about you but I have to get this in...I am not 'short' I am average.
Now that i have gotten that out of the way - FUCK HIM!!! Its all about you right now. You are with child but that don't mean shit. You will get yours and will be great.
Yeah boo too much too soon. People get spoiled and don't know how to act. Either they latch on and take you for all you got or they run scared not being able to handle it all. My mantura is - "Give them a little and take it right back!" Got that from the Cosby Show.
Big Kuntry is a loser (we always say that when things go wrong with me lol). At least you found out that it wouldn't work now and not later after you had invested more time. I was like dang did I miss something cause I didn't even know it was in the ending process...sometimes things come out of no where. I feel ya about being in the right mindset..I'm fighting that now..tryin to determine if someone is runnin game just cause he's doin nice stuff...it's hard on that person cause they have to prove themselves and hard on me or rather us cause we dont' want to be hurt again...Hang in there girl maybe pooka will have a fine teacher you can meet and marry LOL...plus Kuntry gonna miss your luvin haha
N4R - you are a finger snap taller than Shawn and Shawn is SHORT...so what does that tell you? LOL
Give a little and take it back....I may have to try that!
Honey - I know your at that place where your not sure what to think or believe but I got faith in D. so far it's good so we'll both keep our fingers crossed that D. keeps up the good work.
It would be nice if Pooka's teacher was fine! But I already know from the open house that all the Kindergarden teachers are female! LOL
It's good to get out early. You'd hate to be there for a good three years and it be like, "WHAT THE HELL IS THIS HERE RELATIONSHIP?"
Gurl you are just deducting the losers away from the winners. Ity's like a basketball tryout or something. (OOOH BASKETBALL PLAYERS YUM LOL Although I LOVE the way baseball players are built.)
Gurl you pray and get yourself together, because whenever he may come you want to be right. So you don't have to be seraching for his BS.
-Marz
Marz - what's up with you and basketball players lately? LOL I hear yah babe...
Try meeting them at school? I don't know, I am having 'love' troubles too, but not the same ones your having :-( Unfortunately, the ones I seem to attract want to move waaaaaay fast and want to take care of me and Aaron like I'm not independent... It's quite the bother...
I agree with Chelle. It was 7 months before I slept with my other. Even though we both wanted it like crazy, you have to hold out sometimes... And then we slept togetehr for 7 months before everythign fell apart (neither of our faults) and every time was fun and exciting, never boring, blah whatever, I'm rambling...
fucking heartbreak, fuckin A, man
Ladynay is back on the market, with the best assistant, the world-famous POOKA... single gals, get out of their way ! lol
Mel - I really need to try that waiting thing. It's just so difficult cuz my theory is I want and you want so lets take care of the want....
Soldier - Your silly! LOL
I'm so glad you wrote this, cause I find myself in the same position.
I know I must change my venues, but like you said, single mom with a toddler kinda limits your options...
And being manipulated is no fun..therefore, I'm just steppin back, if its meant for me to be with someone, then I will...but in the meanwhile, I'm content with using guys for the penis on my terms though...
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