"They" say that you shouldn't care about what other people think about you. Of course this is situational like most things. You should care what your boss thinks of you because their thoughts determine the length of your employment, or what the professor thinks about you is important because they determine what happens to your gpa, assuming you care about your gpa. But for the most part, it really don't matter what people think of you.
But I wonder what people think and say about me...
Yesterday morning Slim Shady was in my office talking about Big Chips. Now I have blogged my concerns about Big Chips before, but SS was talking about how she thinks she's mentally empty because of this that and the other. Since what she was saying didn't match my thoughts of BC, I just shook my head and kept saying "you know how people are sometimes" and let her say what she had to say.
Then at lunch they come in the door laughing and talking about an other coworker. Granted, they were talking about the same coworker that was about to get dropped by a few folks in my office, myself included, but they were talking about her appearance vs. her ability to work your nerves! As they walked by I just thought to myself that Slim Shady must feel like talking bad about folks all day I wondered if Big Chips knew that she was talking about her just like she was talking about the annoying coworker just hours before. I wonder what not so pleasant things she has/had said about me. Not that it really matters in the long run. Her opinions won't effect anything in my life, but I still wonder. Not just with her, but everyone. Everyone always says the good things to your face, then waits for you to get out of hearing range to say the other stuff. Humans...go figure...
SS and I are supposed to go get my car inspected with some dude that's trying to talk to her. I hope she can work her womaness enough so I can get it done for free! LOL!
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Wow, don't bother yourself with such thoughts! At least I don't. I'm not exactly the pride of the family (more th eblack sheep) and walking around with friends, I realize people say a lot of stuff about me when they think I am out of hearing range, but 90% of the time, I have earphones in, so I can't hear them anyway, but I have razor sharp hearing and can hear them when they think I am out of earshot. Most of the time it's immaturity that makes them the way they are (talking, laughing, etc @ other's expense...)
anyway, I wanted to tell you I saw your new pics a few days ago and I thought they were really pretty, both you and your daughter :-)
I know, it's not worth it, but it was what was on my mind so that's what I typed out.
Your a black girl with pink and blue hair holding the hand of a child with a mohawk...that alone is worth talking about! LOL
Those pix aren't exactly new, but I am working on that. Haven't been able to cop that digital cam yet. Thanks for the words babe.
you did the right thing by letting her speak and keeping your silence. i find myself doing that shit all the time. people want to talk about other folk and then they looking at me like i'm gonna join in.
really...what purpose does it serve other than to tear another spirit down? we all have our issues. i can't talk about someone else when i've got my own crap to deal with. i'm no better than anybody else.
although in my mind i really, REALLY wish i was ;)
for real though...that workplace gossip is for the birds.
It is for the birds, but like I said sometimes I can't help but wonder what the word is about me. It's stupid, but the truth. :-(
i used to work at a place that people were all in other's bidness like that. hated it!
ended it!
just didn't show up for work any more. it just got to be too much drama.
I keep to myself at work...I work with headphones on because I don't want to get entangled in office gossip. I have enough problems without adding more negativity. Try to change the subject when SS starts talking about people so you don't get caught up.
Dang Nay, you left cuz of gossip. That's serious....
NewNew, I usually keep to myself, but I have deemed myself office therapist so people just come to me talking about everything! LOL Nah but really, they do. I guess they don't have blogs or journals to vent with....
Isn't that the truth. People always have something to say, but you usually don't know their true feelings about you until something goes wrong, and sometimes you still don't know...Oh well..
You were right to just let her talk...
Ya know I'm the same way, cause sometimes I catch myself when I say something about someone else and I'm like dang I wonder how they see me....not that I care but just cause I'm kinda nosey like that LOL and how the heck meljoy get to see new pics and I ain't seen em...you got some splainin to do LOL
Well since people don't generally gossip about positive things it's safe to assume whatever SS says about you is going to be negative. Sometimes people say mean stuff and act a fool as "entertainment" or so they say. Maybe she's jealous, picking on things she see's in herself, or otherwise miserable. If you don't want to hang with her at work do you really want her around you after work, even if it does or could help you?
Honey, what had happened was....LOL
Send me your myspace info.
Freaky, I hear yah which is why I keep my distance. I know I shouldn't fool with her even as an associate but for days like today, it's good to know her.
She is Southern so I keep my distance.
LOL I should have stated...
"She" references Slim Shady. LOL
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