Saturday, November 25, 2006

"Where did the time go?"

My cousin must have read my mind as we sat on my cousins porch watching mini versions of ourselves run around the front yard playing. I laughed, "Man I dunno but it feels like that was us just yesterday! When did we get old?". That followed a great conversation about the past. It was really great for my cousin Jb to show up. He's the closest thing I have to a blood brother. He is 5 months older than I. He was born, grew up, and lived in DC until his mom passed in 96 then they shipped him to NC. People used to ask aunt Diva, who was our designated babysitter back then, if we were siblings to which she always said yes! LOL It was a lot easier than explaining how were related. Very soon after he got to NC he started reproducing. He currently has 4 young ones that look JUST LIKE HIM! Well, all but the last one but this is supposed to be about my turkey day. LOL

There were 3 of my cousins that showed up Thursday that surprised the fam. JB was one, Hollywood (with husband in tow), and one of my first cousins. The last cousin was the biggest surprise because she don't really mess with the fam like that. She never comes the the Thanksgiving production. In my last post I referred to our Thanksgiving dinners as a party, but it's really more like a production. I mean seriously, what other family has a program for dinner? LOL Cousin Hollywood brought her wedding pix and passed them around. They were simply beautiful. They wed in Jamaica and their pix looked unreal! To bad a good portion of the fam stated they were not going to the reception party today. Matter fact it's going on right now as I type! Oh well.

The dinner itself was great as always. Everyone looked good in their western gear. My grandmothers oldest sister had on these fitted jeans and was rocking them like WHOA! We kept picking on her and asking who she was going to see when she left the dinner. I mean she's been really sick but she came up in the spot looking good you hear me? Between her and my momma I don't know who I was gonna tell about themselves first! They ain't old enough to be dressing that sexy! LOL

The best part of the evening was the last act of the entertainment portion. My 2 younger cousins (I am not going to give every cousin a name) performed "Soul Man" by the blues brothers. OH MY GOODNESS I wish I could You tube it and share that performance with yall but I can't. It was toooooo funny. Me and another cousin were bout to be on the floor laughing so hard! I swear to God there in no other fam like mine. There a bunch of Looney Tunes! LOL! When we finally got home and put stuff away my grandmother was fugg'ed up. When she drinks she talks...a lot. So she had me, aunt Diva, and my cousin who owns the house up for a good while laughing our butts off. It was like a one woman stand up. What was even funnier is my grandmother didn't remember saying any of it Friday! LOL She did mention my grandfather a few times in her standup, like the time they went to go see the Rock wrestle at the MCI center years ago (I never knew that!) but she'd always cut herself off and say, "Let's not talk about that". We wonder how she is dealing with him being gone, but none of us are going to ask her.

Friday morn at about 4 something aunt Diva woke me up and told me it was time to roll out. Normally on black Friday I try to stay very far away from malls and retail places, but my aunt couldn't find anyone to go with her so I said I'd go. Why Lord why? I mean I sorta figured since (1) she had knew where she wanted to go (2) pretty much knew what she wanted to get (3) wasn't shopping for clothes that this trip was going to be fairly painless. I was wrong. We got to the first store about 5 and we got back to my cousins house about 11. Enough said! LOL. I wasn't planning on spending any money till my next pay check, but I did buy Pooka and sleeping bag set (thanks to an idea of a certain blogger) and the Willy Wonka Chocolate factory movie. They'll stay in the back of the van covered up until the day b4 we leave out for Christmas. My aunt brought her an remote control Hummer and Pooka is gonna flip! I can't wait to watch her open it! Pooka's not much of a baby doll little girl even tho' she's mainly a priss. I did buy myself Underworld and Memoirs of a Geisha. Walmart was selling them for 4 bucks a piece so I figured why not.

Once we got back to my cousin's place we were on st8 chill mode. That's how Jb and I ended up out on the porch watching the kids. I took me a quick nap and brought it back to Raleigh Friday evening. As much as I love my fam, I need to digest them in spurts. When other fam came through and folks got to talking negative about this that and the other, the he said she said, and how my 13 year old cousin is having sex and her parents (really grandparents) won't believe it, I knew it was time to bounce. As much as I wanna be in the know, I didn't feel like hearing it.

I got home and checked my messages. The first one was from my father. Well knock me down with a feather, he used my number! LOL He just wished me a happy thanksgiving and whatever, then my dude I went out with hung up on my machine (caller ID), then got a message from T-lo with the holiday well wishes, then another message from my father from earlier that day, awwwwwww. I didn't call anyone back. Just chilled.

Today has been chill as well. My father called again this morning and I didn't pick the phone up on purpose. I didn't have a reason to not to pick up, but I just let it ring. He called back later today and I figured that since he's called me more in 3 days than he has in the last 3 years that he needed to relay a message to me. I pick up asked me if I was in the country yesterday. He had the nerve to ask why I didn't come by to see him! HUH? Well one, I didn't think about it, two, I don't know where he is living, three, he claims to fly back and forth to NM why not leave an extra hour or so early and come visit me? I live 15 minutes from the airport and it's not like he hasn't been in my place b4! Anyways, we chit chat and I am wondering what the important message was that he had to keep trying to get up with me then I think it came....

"you got a car"

"yeah, I have 2"

"what you got"

I tell him...

"what years"

I tell him...

"you need to upgrade"

I chuckle "you gonna upgrade me?"

"well I got this Mountaineer that I need to get rid of and I was planning on giving it to you when you came down this way"

I roll my eyes "oh word?" At this point I wanted to ask him about that black pick up truck he had for me in 97 that I still haven't seen, but I continued to listen to him tell me about this truck. When he was done, he spoke with Pooka who didn't know who he was. He was a tad sadden by that but she's never spoke to him on the phone so why would she recognize his voice? Anyways, he tells me that now that my number is programmed in his red razor (why couldn't he just say phone?) that he'll call more often, come pick Pooka up, blah blah blah blah blah blah. I kinda tuned out when he was talking and let him end the convo.

Maybe one day my father will recognize that he doesn't have to lie to be around. Whether he was as rich as Bill Gates or pay check to pay checking like the next man, he's still helped give me life and if nothing else I can give him credit for that and him making an attempt to really be around.

Whatever.....

18 comments:

fuzzy said...

the boo and I went to see memoirs of a geisha. I believe it was our first movie that we went to see together! underworld is a good one also. great picks for 4 bucks!
As for the daddy, well things happen... I'd go pick up the truck, have a lil convo and leave with my new car!

fuzzy said...

and I fixed the quiz... I had to change the location where i did the quiz... let me know your score! :)

Ladynay said...

Fuz, I heard about Geisha and I've seen Underworld so I was confident in my choices when I made them.

As far as the truck, knowing my father, there is no truck. He's a real life habitual lier. Seriously, I am not just typing that out because he's not one of my favorite people.

Freaky Deaky said...

I'm glad that you had fun on Thanksgiving. It really does sound like a production of sorts.

You think you'll ever work things out and be close to your father?

I loved Underworld. I still haven't seen Memoirs of a Geisha though.

Ladynay said...

It's so hard to put words to my family sometimes! LOL

I think the only way my father and I can get it together is if he started being himself.

From the trailors and all the reviews I've read when Memoirs came out, it should be pretty good at the very least. I didn't read many negative statements about it. I am pretty sure I made a good blind choice :-)

TrinaBeingTrina said...

It sounds like you really had a lot of fun and the best part is knowing when it's time to bounce instead of getting caught up in the gossip.

As far as your dad...I really hate to hear about people, especially women who don't have a close relationship with their father. Hopefully he will get himself together one day but until then....whatever

Ladynay said...

Trina, exactly! Gotta know when to walk away. A good time was definitely had.

And I was fortunate to have had a father figure to step up to the plate and handle business when my real father wouldn't so it's not all bad.

Even tho' my grandfather has now passed on, he did what he could while he was here. The ball is and always been in my biological fathers court. I am done trying. I think I blogged about that a good while ago.

blkbutterfly said...

i liked Memoirs, but not as much as the book. (isn't that always the way, though?)

i'm glad you had a good time with the fam. 4 am?! girl, you're a good one. the only thing i'm looking at that hour are my eyelids!

as for the car promise, you know, something told me it was an empty promise, b4 i got to your own words...

That Girl said...

I don't have a close relationship with my father...I want my future children to have a better relationship with their dad...sigh.

lj said...

You got one of those lieing for no reason fathers too... I'm still waiting on that car I was supposed to get for graduation.

meljoy said...

hey i've got a dad like that!

Ladynay said...

BB, I would say that I'll go read the book but I know I won't LOL.

I wouldn't have been up that early to shop either, but my aunt couldn't find no one to go with her.

TG, I'm sure when you find your man he'll be around for the kids.

Lj, I think our fathers meant they had vechicles for their grandchildrens graduation, not ours! We must have heard them wrong! LOL

Mel, it's an epidemic I tell you!

Honey-Libra said...

As I always say you ain't got to lie to kick it...but hey guess he figured if he was gonna come back it needed to be with something to offer...glad you had a wonderful thanksgiving..my roomie told me about that insane sale at Wally world on DVD's too bad I was sleep LOL..I can shop later

Ladynay said...

But Honey, he don't have anything to come with nor does he need to come with anything! That's part of the problem.

Wally world had some nice sales going on but I didn't succomb to it very much. I spent like $50 bucks all weekend, gas included! LOL *go me go me* Christmas is not breaking MY bank! No sir! LOL

Lady J said...

I am glad you had a good turkey day. Don't go thru life and have regrets. Is he that big of a liar? That is terrible. Just follow ur heart as far as with your father. Your family sounds like fun.

Ladynay said...

I don't have any regrets as far as my dad is concerned, yes, he really is that big of a liar.

My fam is completely NUTZ! LOL

Honey-Libra said...

Yea you and I know that but apparently he didn't get that news flash LOL

Ladynay said...

He's been on earth almost twice as long as us and you'd think people like him would catch on by now Honey.....