Thursday, April 10, 2008

Women that make me sick

Now let me just put it out there that I know men do what I am about to put out there too, but you always hear about the woman doing it...

What is it? Pursuing a man that has a significant other already.

My coworker has been kicking it with our US Postal Service mail guy for months. Everyday when it's about his time to come to our building she is either outside or in the lobby. They always talk and do whatever for 15 minutes and he leaves. Everyone knows he is married, including my coworker. Does she care? Nope! In the beginning other coworkers would tell her to leave him alone and it goes in one ear and out the other. Nobody says anything anymore. I try not to wish bad things upon people, but before I leave this job I want the wife to come up here. Just to see how things go down.

I know there are plenty of wom..,'cuse me, dumb broads who prefer men that are with women already for various reasons (all stupid IMO). I hear them on talk and radio shows defending themselves and talking about how it's the girlfriend/wife's fault for not taking care of her man, I'm better than she is, blah blah blah blah...

The men involved, like the mailman in this case, are just a guilty because the dumb broads won't be able to get the man if the man doesn't allow himself to get got. I know you can't help who comes on to you but you can control how the hell you respond!!!! I mean what ever happened to turning the other woman down? What happened to respecting your woman? I mean dang, if a dude came on to me. I'd smile, accept the ego stroke, decline the come on and keep moving. Is that so flipping hard?

Then if it's the involved dude coming on to the chick, what kind of woman are you to willingly go into this type of situation? I mean obviously the dude isn't loyal so what the hell? Human dick is better than the toys but shit I KNOW there are SINGLE and UNATTACHED men out there who are willing to just fuck you if all you want is someone to fuck! I mean really!

Again, I want the wife to come up here...just once.

Edit, seeing them do what they do all extra affectionate like nothing is wrong has bothered me so. I can't help to think what if I was the mailman's wife. Even though most women know when something is up, what if she was under the impression that all her hubby does everyday at work was what was in his job description? What would I do? I've been cheated on more than my fair share of times and I have an idea of what my reaction would be if I was back in her similar situation. *sigh* I had to email Snookums and ask him not to play with my feelings while it was on my mind. I don't think he's doing anything disrespectful, but I had to ask him not to play me. He is a grown man that will do what he pleases, but I can still had to ask to put it out there.

God, to be in that place again....*sigh* I hated that place. I hate thinking about being in that place. Dammit!

18 comments:

Anonymous said...

I understand your frustration on both ends. I've been the other woman and I've been the girlfriend and it's not a nice feeling. Its one thing if you haven't a clue but you are trifling as hell to go along with a man involved with someone else, married or not.

deepnthought said...

That is heavy right there. I think when they willingly go (men and women) into situations like that, they deserve what the outcome is. Be it, beat down, divorce, or whatever. JMO

Ladynay said...

I am not really frustrated, I just don't understand it. I've honestly never gone after a guy who was already involved (to my knowledge) cuz for example if after some time I get attached to dude, I won't be able to trust him cuz I know how he is. Then like I said, there are single dudes who are just dating around who will spend time with you and fuck you till you cry out uncle. I just don't get it.

I agree it is trifling. Don't give a damn about how he/she makes you feel dumb is dumb.

Ladynay said...

DNT, yep! They deserve what they get. My coworker needs a wake up call. What is even worse is she is not an ugly woman so I am sure she can pull a single man.

Freaky Deaky said...

Are you sure they're doing anything more than flirting? Just because he is flirting with or appears to be entertaining the co-workers doesn't necessarily mean there's any intention to creep with her.

Personally married chicks and chicks in long-term relationships kind of lose sexy points to me but I they do flirt and I have been known to return the flirting every now and then.

Now if there's intent and it goes further then flirting then I'm with Deep. Whatever he or she gets he or she deserves.

Ladynay said...

One more thing...

When you go into that type of relationship with someone who is already attached, you are basically saying that you are okay with being number 2 (or 3, or 6, or 15) WTH? You're saying that you are okay with sloppy seconds. You're saying that you understand and are okay with a fraction of a Joker or several fractions of several Jokers versus one KING to match your Queen?

WHAT THE HELL? What's really good?

Ladynay said...

Freaky, they've been physical. The coworker has mentioned it.

You? Flirt? Really? LOL

Freaky Deaky said...

Oh well, that's sloppy letting the co-workers know all your business. It's not creepin' if everyone knows you're doing it. I swear people got the game all messed up. Not that I know anything about the game. *whistles*

I might flirt every once in a blue moon. But I do it so rarely I'd be hard pressed to tell you the last time I did. Oh by the way, you're looking bootyful today, are those thongs you're wearing? :oD

Ladynay said...

They are no where near creeping. They are very open and non chalant (sp) about their affair. What sparked this post was that today they were outside on this bench in front of our building and he was rubbing her foot. There is no shame in their game what so ever. They don't care. At least my coworker don't.

tinovska said...

I think it's a total lack of solidarity to womin for another one to go with a married man. If she really has any dignity, she sould wait for the D-I-V-O-R-C-E.
Otherwise, she is a sucker, for the guy will use her and dump her, most of the times.

Ladynay said...

It does happen that way a lot Tina.

AR Gal said...

I try not to judge but I don't understand it either. A friend of mine used to "talk" to this guy that was married. She says they never took it beyond kissing and what not (which is bad enough) and I took her word for it but I just could never wrap my head around why you would knowingly want to enter into a "relationship" with someone that wasn't yours and something that would probably never be.

Ladynay said...

I don't understand it either :-(

Kat said...

I agree with eveyone else on this topic. My thoughts are....if you are the "other woman" and the guy left the "Real" woman....could you EVER trust him?? I mean...wouldn't you just assume that he would find another "OTHER"?

Some women just don't know that they deserve a man that only has eyes for them!

Me? I KNOW THAT! HAHAH

deepnthought said...

If a person is kissing and talking sharing intimate moments (not sex), with someone other than their mate then they are cheating. That is time spent that should be with the one you professed your love too. That would cause the bat an Lucille to come out of retirement just as quick as the other.

Beautiful said...

I can relate...I was the wife who found out that my X was cheating. I contacted her and told her what was up. I broke a cake plate over it and left my home for three days. He told me it was over, then we separated a year later. He wanted to reconcile, made promises that he couldn't keep,and eventually we divorced last year. Well, he keeped calling me apologizing and I couldn't keep being mad at him..He married the girl who he was cheating with. We hooked up many times,and she had the nerve to call me and give me grief. Part of me is guilty but the other side really don't give a damn. She is married to him not me. He lies like he breathes and she should know that he did the same thing to her during the same time.

I don't mess with married but I will fuck with stupid!

Beautiful said...

The thing I know it that I need to not fall for him. It is what it is, SEX. As for solidarity, I didn't have that..It all boils down to the man. If you are in a monogamous relationship with someone, do that. Don't play the field,lie, or make promises. Cause what's done in the dark will come to light. And if you cheated with him, what makes you immune??

Keisha "Kitten" Isaacs said...

I think there are alot of reasons why woman sleep with other women's men, but the underlining reason is low self-esteem! We hear tons of excuses for the role of the other woman, but when it's all said and done it boils down to low self esteem..(my opinion)

Back in the day when I was still a little girl and didn't know any better I played second best, but that just doesn't work for a sista no more. I think it's bad enough to mess with someone else's man, but their HUSBAND...that's a serious sin....I ain't judging nobody cause that ain't my job...I just pray that we women start loving ourselves enough to recognize we are daughters of the King and we don't have to be second place! A man that God has designed just for us is being prepared for us...patience is a virtue...peace