I have been really pressing this issue with Babydaddy. He is doing this training thing for his job so he can go to the next level and make more money. The problem is between work, school, and training. He don't have the time to watch Pooka. We both understand that she is the number one priority, but it would be in all three of our interest if she came back before June. I mean what is the point of her being up there if he is always dropping her at my mom's or with our friend?
He keeps telling me that he wants to prove to himself that he can handle having many hat's on his head at the same time. It was also mentioned that if she came back early, to him that would mean "I quit, I can't handle it" I keep telling him that he has proven himself and that he isn't a quitter! Pooka has been with him since January, so that makes almost 3 months of living the hands on single parent life. Plus he has time to keep her again. The plan is for her to spend the summers with him if and until her school decides to go year round. I don't know.
Pooka and my mom are scheduled to come back down April 2nd. I think that's funny that my mom has been living on 95 lately! As soon as she asked me if I was going anywhere till Easter, I knew she was planning to come back down. But I don't have a problem with her coming, she's one of my favorite people in the world. Or Pooka for that matter, but that goes without saying. We'll all go back up when I drive up for Easter to be with my grandfolks! During that time, Babydaddy needs to make up his mind whether Pooka is coming home with me after Easter or not.
On one hand, I hear him struggle and I want to help lighten the load......but on the other hand, the struggle and sacrifice is part of being a parent. The only reason I am more equipped to handle it is because I have been doing it so long it's routine for me.
Sidenote : Today is March Madness day @ my job and we are to wear your favorite team's paraphenelia. I don't have a favorite, but the only tee shirt I have sporting a March Madness participant is Chapel Hill. I know they aren't in it anymore, but now I gotta go to school this morning with a big ole' Tarheel on my chest! LOL
AMENDMENT
Nikki decided that I should blog 10 things I believe my perfect man would have (in no order)......
1. Honesty - It makes life easier for everyone if I can believe what he says.
2. Motivation/Drive - He has to be a go getter. Slackers are a no no!
3. Attentive - I know I am big on attention, if he is paying attention properly, I'll tell him verbally and non verbally what's going on.
4. Attractive - I don't judge a book by the cover, but I have to like something about the cover to even pick the book up.
5. Sensitive - I don't want an overly emotional man but I want him to feel comfortable crying on my shoulder. Express yourself, communicate.....
6. Intelligent - I'll teach him somethings, he'll teach me somethings, we'll learn somethings together. You can't teach me anything if you don't know nothing.
7. Family oriented - I have a huge family plus Pooka and I come as a package deal. A lot of men don't want ready made families and I am not for them.
8. Open minded - I talk to and befriend many types of people and like to experience different things so as my companion, I would want him to be willing do some of them things with me.
9. Spiritual - He doesn't have to be at church every weekend, but he has to believe in a higher power.
10. Affectionate - Hold my hand, caress my face, all the cute small things that keep me thinking of him all day long. I am a touchy feeling person with men I like so it works great if it's mutual.
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Hmmm...That is a hard decision.
I know you want her to be with you, but will you have the time to devote to her?
Yep, the same amount of time I had before she left. One of babydaddys teachers doesn't want him bringing Pooka to class anymore *he had a daycare in mind, but something didn't work out* so he is taking her to my moms, which is all good, but she is not down there for my mom or grandmother to watch. They have enough going on in the house as is.
Of course I am bias but I think we will all be better off with her being back here earlier.
short, and straight to the point. i like your list....
You know I always wanted to adopt a kid one day but I really hope I have a significant other when the time comes.
I dunno. Aaron's daddy will have him for the most part. I mean he and I don't see each other as it is. I walk in the door at 1:55pm, he walks out at 2pm. I'm in bed by 10pm, he doens't get home til midnight. I am out the door at 6:55am, he doesn't even open his eyes til sometime after 10am. The baby is used to us sort of not being together as it is. But he will start seeing more of his dad, because I won't be seeing him on Wednesdays and Thursdays anymore. I already spend saturdays and sundays with him, so eh... I dunno. I would be more than happy for Aaron to live with his dad on a regular basis, but who knows. I dunno all the dynamics to your situation. If he's struggling and your child is suffering, then do whats best, you know?
hehe, rock shows are wicked. You must be exposed! lol..
Ola - Hello! I try to keep things that way. It just works easier for me.
Lj - things are mos definitely easier when you have another guardian in the home.
Mel - I have been to a few rock shows, that's how I know I would never do it alone. I literally almost passed out at the Oasis concert and they are light weight! LOL
great list~~~I totally agree with you. Awwwww I am so glad you still care about him as a person. That says alot about your character.
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