why folks want what they can't have. I fall victim to this too because Lord knows I love me some cold milk in a glass when I know full daggone well I am not supposed to have it in those quantities (regular or soy). But I am talking more on the lines of relationships.
I was listening to a program, the same one that riled me up about fat people, and they where talking about cheaters. They had a segment in the show where he wanted the people who date married people to call in. 98% of those that called in were women. What really started to irk me was that most of the callers were proud of what they do/did! They ran all sorts of excuses of why it works for them. As someone who has been in the wife/"main" girlfriend position these women pissed me off! It made me think about the many (yeah many) women who hooked up with babydaddy knowing that I was who I was. It made me go back to an emotional place I try to leave alone. Fortunately I didn't go too deep down and pulled myself out of it.
There are so many single brothers out there that can give you what you need! You want a brotha that won't be all up under you? There is one out there. Want a brotha to help you out? There is one out there. Want a brotha who never spends holidays with you? There is one out there. Why do I have the urge to sing Monica's side line ho? LOL But what I am trying to say is that there are single men out there that will willingly treat you like a married man. The only thing that you won't have is the thrill of knowing you're doing something you are not supposed to and THINK your getting away with it!
I am aware that there are single men out there involved w/married or involved women but most of the callers into the show were women. Men are just as bad. Two good examples for me were that extra friendly plumber from a few weeks ago who wanted to know about how babydaddy was treating me and last night when I got an IM from Redbone! I thought he would have deleted me off his list by now cuz I know he has been off mine! So anyway the convo starts off pretty normal w/his standard line of questioning...how you doing, school, Pooka, blah blah blah then somewhere after the filler he always asks if I was with someone. My response was "something like that" I mean technically I am single but I am not accepting applications right now,LOL. Normally when I get that question I respond no so I was curious about his response to my answer. I should have known it would be something like "so how is this guy, you good? you still stay in the same place" (read: you happy, if not can I come hit?) *eyeroll* "I'm good". Then he asked something that really made me laugh out loud...he asked if I missed him. UMMMMMMMMMMMM nah boo, glad you think enough of yourself to think I may actually say yes to ask me that though! I mean I can give you a list of things I missed during the time we were kicking it! LOL I did't say that but gave a cop out "I am too busy to miss anyone" and informed him I was signing off.
I mean why are so many men and women willing and wanting to be number 2 (3,4,5,etc...), the side dish, the other or whatever. Why are you so arrogant to think you can do whatever better than what folks got at home? If your stuff is so much better why not bless that single chick/dude that is waiting for someone like you with all this skill? Why you want someone elses partner? You think he/she gonna treat you better than what is at home?
Does that good woman/man at home not stroking your ego enough so the flash of a smile, the smoothness of a compliment, a flirty touch and a possible show of some body part of another is worth straying? Relationships are hard and require work, are you that lazy to work on what you got? I mean you did choose what you got at some point! Or are you just greedy? Or maybe that someone else treats you good. If they treat you so good why don't you leave what you got already? You want variety? Take your man/woman to the novelty store and buy something new, dress up like someone else...something!
I need to drop the mic before my pressure goes up. I just don't understand the whole concept.