Tuesday, April 22, 2008

When you can't make it better...

You call yourself a friend right...

so when your friend needs a pick me up, they call you, cuz that's what friends do...

but what if when they call on you for that pick me up, you don't know how to do it....

you don't make it better, maybe made it worse...

I wish I could change the not so fun and unchangeable things that happens to folks I care about, but I can't.

I am human, not a God and I understand this completely.

Yet I still feel like I failed cuz I couldn't make it better.

15 comments:

YoungBlack&DL said...

As hard as it might be to believe but even at the age of 22, it took me a long time, to understand, you can't fix other people problems. Even nowI got to constantly remind myself it's not my job, to fix other people problems.

All you can do, is be ther for them, and give them a listening ear. I've learned that, that's what people want and really need, is someone to be there to listen. Give your friend that, and encouragement, and keep it moving.

Even if it's hard not to, don't judge them and their issues. Just help them try to sor t things out, and give them hope and love. Send them on their way.

I'm sure Lady Nay, you tried, and did your best! The fact that this botheres you, shows how much a frien dyou are.

MzNewy said...

Girl, sometimes we try to fix someone else's problems and it may be something they MUST go through to grow. I am like you, I try to fix everyone's stuff but you have to know when to Let Go and Let God...sometimes when we try to fix it, we are getting in the way. **hugs**

Ladynay said...

Hola YB&DL,Even though we can't fix it, you still sometimes want to make things better, even if only for a small amount of time. Give them something to laugh about vs. pondering on their current issue. Yah know.

New New, where you been? I forgot to think of it like that. The sucky things we experience sometimes are for our own good in the end.

Freaky Deaky said...

You do what you can when you can. That's all you can do. Sometimes it would be nice to have someone with a magic wand to take away the pain or to jump in take over things. Unfortunately, things usually don't work out that neatly.

Everyone can't be on the front line. Maybe in this case, as a friend the best thing you can do is stand beside your friend and catch him/her when they stumble or fall. Maybe wiping tears, listening, or being a sounding board doesn't make you feel like your contribution was great but if this friend is worth your thoughts and worries than he/she will appreciate it. :o)

Thoughts of a Southern gal said...

Concur with everyone!

Ladynay said...

Freaky, I hear you and you're right. Still wish I could do more.

Southern, me too :-D

nikki said...

all you can do is what you can do. you're there for your friend an you're helping as much as you can, so don't fret. hopefully your friend understands.

kasandra said...

I agree wit everyone. That is just your part of being a friend. And your right, you can't be God you can only be Ladynay. But I totally understand about that wanting to make things better. :)

Darius T. Williams said...

It's cool Ma, remember, you're human. The fact that you tried is good and the fact that you cared to get it right is even better. Don't trip on the small stuff. Learn from this and next time make it better. In the mean time, keep becoming a better you!

Ladynay said...

We all sound like a pamphlet! LOL

deepnthought said...

I am late and I agree with everybody. (((hugs)))

YoungBlack&DL said...

Well Nay Nay-
If we sound like a pamphlet, then it is a very insightful, and moving pamphlet. One of those good ones too. Not the one that is one page folded into three quarters, but the kind that has a stamples and stuff, with 2 or more pages in the middle. Since I was the first to comment you know it's going to have a fly cover.

It would have a piture of a person trying to pick their friends heavy ass off the ground....You know because they are going through stuff, and are..like...on the ground...and stuff.

Ladynay said...

DNT, me 2 ((hugs))

YB&DL, you have given me my first official laugh of the day! :-D You don't have no sense! LOL!

Torrance Stephens bka All-Mi-T said...

some folks will never get it, shame huh?

Ladynay said...

yep yep yep