Thursday, December 06, 2007

We refuse to learn sometimes...

I can't talk too much because even though Babydaddy never physically abused me, he emotionally tore me a new one over and over and I stayed with him. What in the hell was I thinking staying in a relationship where I was continuously being done wrong? I wish I knew...

All I'm going to say is an abuser is out of lockdown and Slim Shady drove his car to work today.


I hate to keep bringing it up but it's the only thing on my mind right now.

I'm sure the bruises and remnants of their last battle haven't even completely healed yet.

She told me she was done with him for real this time.

I am not even going to say anything to her about it, what's the point.

I am not going to say anything if she comes talking to me about it, again what would be the point, I'd just be repeating myself from the very first of now becoming a few convos about him putting his hands on her.

I would try to slap some sense into her, but apparently she doesn't get the message the hitter is trying to communicate when she gets hit. *eyeroll*

Damn Damn Damn.


My Name Is J said...

unfortunately you can't make her see what you see.

and you can't erase her fear. Sometimes SOME contact whether good or bad is better than none to some people.

You can't give her to courage to believe enough of herself to take that leap of faith and make it past the drama.

But u can pray for her constantly.

Thoughts of a Southern gal said...

You can't make a person do anything they don't want to do. Apparently she's not at that point where she's ready to let him go. The only thing you can do is be there for her when she finally decides to let her go.

In the meantime, if she tries to talk to you about his abusing ways let her know you don't want to hear it b/c it hurts you to hear he's hitting her then she takes him right back. Then play Keyshia Cole "Let It Go".

Ladynay said...

J, I had to check your site to make sure you were the J I was thinking you were! LOL

I know what you say is true and that's the sad part. I wish there was a way I could prevent what stands a good chance of happening, but my hands are tied.

Souhern, apparently not. She's already come to talk to me about it. Him, her son, and his nephew that he takes care of like a son took a Christmas pix and she was going around showing it. When she got to me I commented on her son's expression than gave her a look. She knew what my look meant and all she said was "I know, I know" and walked out. So she already knows I don't wanna hear about them being back together.

Freaky Deaky said...

Question: What do you call a woman with two black eyes?

Answer: Hard of hearing.

Just walk away. Don't get dragged into her dysfunction and stupidity. Tell her to kick bricks and pick up one of them next time she's getting the snot beat out of her.

I'm out like a drum major. Not gay just gone. *POOF*

Reg said...

its hard to make someone stop going back to someone - even when they know what's good for them. It's up to her to decide when enough's enough. I'll say a little pray for her.


Ladynay said...

*gasp* Is Freaky Deaky commenting on my blog? The world is coming to an end! LOL

*double gasp* Is one of my favorite PT's back blogging again? Now I know it's gonna snow today! *wink*

LsbnMom said...

You know... I have a story that is worst than this and right here at home. Back in July (i think) a friend of mines great grandchild was killed by her mothers boyfriend. Why was mama using boyfriend/murderers atm card, driving his car, staying at his house, like wont nothing to it! Even after charges were pressed. WTF!!!!